Practical Suggestions for Responding to an Abused Child

Reassure the child that the abuse was not their fault. You may need to remind them repeatedly that they are not responsible. Remember that feelings of anger, guilt, denial, and confusion are normal reactions. The way we respond to children will affect them. The best response is to go slowly and keep focused on the child’s needs. Other suggestions include:

Believe the child: Children seldom make up stories about abuse. The story may not be completely accurate or may be exaggerated, but there are serious family problems.

Be a good listener: Respect the child’s right to silence while allowing them the opportunity to talk freely with you if he/she is comfortable.

Reassure the child: Let the child know that sharing this information with you was the right thing to do. Let the child know that your primary concern is to keep him/her safe. Be honest about your responsibility to report the incident. Do not promise not to tell or make any promises about what may or may not happen.

Help relieve the child of guilt: Explain that what happened is the responsibility of the adult and that they are not to blame.

Be available to the child: The child may need the support and understanding of a caring adult. For some children, the abuse will not be as traumatic as the subsequent intervention.

Protect the child’s right to privacy: Advocate for the child by reminding staff and other adults or children about the child’s right to privacy.